Article: The Thrills of Dating A Cougar

When the topic of ‘cougars’ came up Theia let out a little chuckle.

“Shouldn’t I be the one writing that article?” she teased youthfully.

There is a noticeable age difference between us and I couldn’t help but chuckle at her quip.

Still, the idea of a ‘cougar’ is one that sincerely interests me.

On the one hand, being called a ‘cougar’ replies a certain degree of predatory behaviour. It implies a certain predator/prey relationship and could be taken as a negative.

But, on the other hand, it’s the celebration of women who defy age differences and fearlessly pursue their sexual and romantic attraction in defiance of what society dictates. A cougar is a majestic creature, and I certainly don’t begrudge being compared to one, even in jest.

The reality of being in a relationship with a ‘cougar’ is also typically beneficial. There’s a lot to love about dating an older woman, and I feel like it’s worth highlighting some of these benefits today.

And, if you’re the type of person who cringes slightly at the thought of a ‘cougar’ then allow me to challenge some of your preconceived notion of the allure of older women.

#1 They Know What They Want

If a woman is willing to adopt the role of ‘cougar’ (or even openly date a much younger individual) then, chances are, they know exactly what they want and aren’t afraid to get it.

This is incredibly beneficial in a relationship if you’re a naturally tentative individual, or like those who take charge in romantic and sexual situations.

A cougar will most likely be a no-nonsense individual when it comes to her preferences, how best to please her, and exactly what she wants from your relationship. This lack of uncertainty can be very refreshing, and may even help boost your own sexual confidence as you move forward in your relationship.

#2 Conversation is Often Good

I’m certainly not one for ageism but it is often the case that people who have lived for longer have generally had more time to experience the world, form opinions, and discover the views of others.

This often means that conversation with a self-identified ‘cougar’ is an incredibly enjoyable experience, especially during the early stages of your relationship, where you’re still getting to know each other.

Of course, there’s nothing to say that you can’t hold your own in a conversation due to the age gap (that is, in my humble opinion, bull), but you may find that the unique perspectives that your ‘cougar’ has from her lives experiences brings new interpretations to your own thoughts.

Spend time together discussing life over some coffee or wine and you’re unlikely to be bored.

#3 The Sex Can Get Kinky

This isn’t always the case, and really does depend on the cougar, but be prepared for potential kinkiness.

If the person you’re interested in counts themselves as a stereotypical ‘cougar’, in the erotic sense of the word, then they are, essentially, a more hardcore version of a MILF.

They may adore intercourse and like it rough, taking on a refined persona before displaying their deep throating skills or elegantly asking to be fucked hard, pearls torn from their swan-like neck.

It may be worth asking your partner if they self-identify as a ‘cougar’ and what that means to them, to get an estimation for what her sexual preferences are. If she is a cougar in every sense of the term, then kink is almost certain to be on the table.

#4 They Provide Stability

No, I’m not talking the financial kind (though if they’re happy to share their resources then that’s something to discuss).

Statistically those who are later in life tend to have some form of stability—be it in terms of home, resources, or mentality. With age, often comes some of the cornerstones of life, and those who care about each other are likely to share them.

If you’re struggling mentally, for example, then you may find an older woman is able to offer a mature sense of support, and a balanced perspective on the situation (especially if she has struggled with the same issues).

Stability may also be as simple as the introduction of a routine, as you integrate with your partner’s life over time. Routine is another thing which I’ve personally found comes with age (another way of me saying ‘I feel like an old biddy sometimes’).

#5 You’re With Someone You Love (or Love to be With)

And, most importantly, the biggest perk of being with a cougar is that you’re with them.

I’ll be the first to hold up my hands and say it’s not easy to be in an unconventional relationship. People will judge you, and people judge the older woman in a relationship dynamic much more harshly. There’s a reason that ‘cougar’ can be said in a negative light, after all, whereas ‘silver fox’ is always seen as sexy (if not sometimes comical, if the male is perceived as inadequately masculine).

But if someone has taken up the term cougar proudly, and has chosen to be with you, then chances are that they are in some way invested in your relationship, and are willing to defy conventional norms to pursue your relationship.

Being able to have a relationship with the person you care about is something that’s not to be taken lightly. It has inherent value, and the fact that you’re both challenging conventional relationship structures makes it all the more significant.

So, if you’re considering dating a cougar, take heart in these benefits. I can assure you that they’re just the tip of the iceberg.

This article was sponsored by MILF-Area, who asked me if I could talk about cougars. It’s a topic I hadn’t really addressed before so I was excited to do the research and formulate my own thoughts on the topic. Thank you so much MILF-Arena for getting this peach thinking!