Article: How To Keep Your (Writing) Mojo Going

I love writing.

To which you might all be thinking:

But I don’t begrudge acknowledging it every now and then.

Chances are many of you also like writing too. I’ve certainly found that those who read reviews and articles often enjoy pursuing their own writing projects, even if only as a hobby. Not sure you’re among the ranks? Okay, well let me ask you a question.

Have you ever:

Engaged in a rather lengthy debate on Twitter?

Wrote your own adult review?

Dabbled in erotica?

Sent a series of saucy texts/IMs to your partner?

Congratulations!

You’re a writer.

Welcome to the club.

And, as with anything, writing improves the more you practice, but this is easier said than done.

Writing is never easy. Each time I sit down to write I find myself faced with a new wall to overcome—the blank page (or document, as is now often the case)—and that can be the most daunting thing of all.

So how do you keep up writing (or even start) when the spark seems to be lacking?

Who Is This For?

Before we go any further, I just want to address any concerns you may have.

If you’re a reader of mine and you’re primarily here for the reviews, then you may be thinking that this post isn’t for you.

And, yes, although fellow (and aspiring) sex bloggers may get more benefit out of this post I’m not writing it strictly for a professional audience. This is for anyone who wants to write about sex. Anyone who wants to write about anything really. Even if you’re just trying to muster up the courage to post in my comments section (I’m flattered) or keep up a positivity journal, etc. I’m hoping you will get something out of this.

If you’re not a writer already then maybe this post will inspire your too. Writing can be incredibly therapeutic and helps keep the mind sharp and the finger muscles strong; very useful if you want to revive the neglected art of finger fucking.

But, anyway, I’ve rambled enough. On to my mojo-maintaining tips!

WRITE!

Now where’s that Nicholas Cage meme again…?

But, seriously, there’s a saying that I try to live by and it gets me writing even when the blank page seems like a white void:

Action Before Motivation.

The brain is lazy. Super-duper lazy. It wants to preserve energy in any way it can—just ask the author of Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman, who has compelling argued that if the brain can cut corners to keep itself at a low energy level then it will. And writing is effort.

Usually that first mental block is the absolute hardest to break and, at this point, many people think that they just need to wait for motivation to strike, but I would disagree.

Nothing changes until something changes and, in this case, that means if you want to keep your writing going then you need to write.

It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. It doesn’t even have to be what you intend to write about that day, but as long as you start writing then you’ve broken through that first block and have kick started your brain in to getting the job done.

One trick I was taught at university was to put a 2 minute timer on and, for that time, just write whatever comes to your mind. Nothing is off-limits during this time, nothing is stupid, and it doesn’t even need to make sense. The important thing is that it gets you started.

I’ve never personally used this method often—I prefer to simply will myself to get on with my chosen topic—but I know it works for many. If it doesn’t work for you then find a different method. Just get writing.

From there you may just find that motivation follows. If not immediately then perhaps in time.

You’ve got this. Just start.

Don’t Expect Perfection

My second mantra is something that I, yet again, discovered at university and it’s one I stick by firmly. To quote the advice directly it was:

Perfect research is never published, and published research is never perfect.

However, I feel this applies to pretty much any writing.

You are never going to achieve perfection. Salvador Dali knew this, as did many of the great individuals of history, and, deep down, so do you most likely. But it’s hard to accept. Many of us are perfectionists. Heck, I’m a perfectionist. But perfectionism is something to fight.

Much as with waiting for motivation, if you keep on working on something and then overworking it again and again hoping to get it ‘just right’ you may find that you never finish it (nor even start at times).

It’s much better to accept that over time you will grow as an individual and a writer and simply accept that this inevitably means that you’ll never truly be 100% satisfied with your work.

Some pieces will instil more pride than others. Some will feel like B-tracks to your main writing jam, but the important thing is to put yourself (and your writing) out there.

Typos will happen. As will criticism. But that’s to be expected.

Nobody’s perfect.

Allow Yourself to Take Breaks

I am, without a doubt, insane. I write for my site daily. Do freelance work most days. Work on a PhD where needed. Write daily letters to my partners. And then add additional writing projects on top of this.

That’s not to mention working out, housekeeping, maintaining many (positive) relationships, doing general chores, managing emails & social media, and so on and so forth.

I don’t recommend such a heavy schedule to anyone. I think it’s important for each writer to find their own pace, but I also think this advice applies to everyone (including myself):

It’s important to take breaks!

For the mind to work when it needs to, it also needs to have time to rest, recuperate, and generally mellow. How you do this is up to you but I highly recommend something such as mindfulness, a gentle hobby, or even a nap (god I love naps).

I am bad at this, but I try, and I notice the benefits every single time.

A break is like pushing the reboot button on my mind and allows me to return to writing with a renewed sense of enthusiasm and creativity. It can, and will, do the same for you.

And, finally…

Be Prepared to be Vulnerable

You may start writing with the intent of being completely objective. You may even feel completely detached at first (though I have no idea how) but, sooner or later, writing will get personal and you need to be prepared for this.

When you think about it the very act of writing is an act of vulnerability. The moment you commit your thoughts to some external form you’re putting yourself out there in a way that’s inherently confrontational. You must suddenly look at what you considered in that moment and potentially even offer those thoughts up to others.

That’s scary.

It will always be scary.

And so, like a Scout, it pays to be prepared, brace yourself, and accept this vulnerability.

Personal pieces will flow out. They may not always find an audience but writing prompts a desire to get one’s thoughts down and this does mean having moments that will make you laugh, cry, or perhaps seethe with the rage of a thousand suns.

But if you can take this passion and honesty and move towards accepting this then you will find that you improve as a writer, and perhaps even as a self-affirming individual.

No promises, but I do hope writing can provide this for you.

God knows it has for me.

  • Sashae Robertson

    The fact that there is someone with a similar schedule as mine is incredibly reassuring. (This post also served to remind me that I have a lit review to be working on…) Well written and so timely and poignant for me. Thank you!
    Sashae