There are different kinds of toys that could technically earn the term ‘couples’ toy’. The obvious one is a sex toy or vibrator worn during sex. Then you’ve got your double ended dildos, your vibrating cock rings, and other obvious choices.
Sex furniture, too, has always firmly been in the ‘couples’ section in my mind. I mean, its main purpose is for use with someone else, right? The same goes with massage candles, and oral lubricant, and herein lies the opaquest secret of all: Any toy can be a couples’ sex toy.
Take a sex toy, use it with your partner, BAMH! You’ve got a couples’ sex toy.
Some toys are more suited to the task, yes, but ultimately it’s about what works for your bodies, your manoeuvres, and your personal needs which defines whether a toy is, for you, a couples’ toy or not, in spite of design.
But just because a toy can be used as a couples’ toy doesn’t mean that it should, and it’s all the more disappointing if it’s marketed as such.
I suppose this is my way of saying that I finally got to review the Lelo Ida.
The Lelo Ida
Full transparency—I have avoided the Lelo Ida for the longest time. Primarily because of the negative reviews and disdainful whispers among the adult community that already exist for the Ida (the most vivid of which has always been Epiphora’s for me).
I dislike reviewing toys that I think will hurt me. Not only is it an unpleasant experience, but it also feels like some kind of insult—“Yeah, if you could give me your product so that I can destroy it with biting wit then that’d be greeeat” just doesn’t seem right to me (unless it’s a really shitty or dangerous product/company, then it’s not just right, it’s righteous). I’m not naturally a scathing individual, so writing negative reviews doesn’t come naturally to me.
But I want to be helpful to my readers/potential customers and that means looking at the good and the bad, the pros and the cons, not just when it comes to items I advocate for but also those I dissuade against. And when a toy is retailing at £145.00 and comes from a company whose toys I generally enjoy greatly (alongside many others) then all the more reason to take that inevitable plunge.
And I’ll be damned if this is a ‘couples’ toy’.
The Lelo Ida pitches itself as the quintessential couples’ vibrator—a ‘Ménage À Trois For Two’. By all accounts it considers itself to be the best of the best. ‘…sharing IDA™ together promises the best sex of your lives’ its product page confidently states.
I must disagree, but first the specs.
The Lelo Ida is a vibrator intended to be worn in the vagina during PiV intercourse. The premise is simple but not one that has been regularly attempted. Essentially its larger, pebble-like section remains on the vulva and vibrates eagerly while the internal prong twists and twirls to delight the G-Spot and the shaft simultaneously.
A wearable vibrator isn’t new but a wearable swivel-prong is a rarity.
Rechargeable. Waterproof. Complete with a storage bag, a warranty, and some lubricant. All good.
A remote control means that the Lelo Ida can be controlled without any fiddly, fincky action, making the process of using it smoother and more intuitive. Stopping to wedge a hand in between each other’s crotch has never been an ideal way to control a couples’ toy, so this is a relief. In my experience the remote works well too, so there’s no real issue here (though changing the batteries is a tad obnoxious and losing it would be a nuisance).
Measurement-wise the Lelo Ida comes in at 6.5 x 1.4 x 1.3 in., which feels bulky during use. It’s hard to position comfortably in most instances, at least when two bodies are involved. When wearing it solo in secure undies it actually sits quite nicely in place. When used with underwear-based strap-ons it’s also quite effective (and, wouldn’t ya know, this allows for some queer usage too). But when two bodies try to become one the design of the Lelo Ida makes it a definite third wheel.
As for its own spinning function and vibrations, the Lelo Ida has 8 different vibration settings and varying intensities. The sensetouch controller makes playing with these good fun, and I often think that the best use of the Lelo Ida really is as a wearable for the overture of an orgasm rather than the main event. I imagine a Dom teasing their Sub with the swirling of the remote, as if toying with a glass of wine, and the reaction that this could solicit in both. This is where the Lelo Ida excels.
But try to use it with a penis and what Mr Peaches and I encountered was the prospect of pain, cringing, and a whole lot of ‘No’. There was a refusal from Mr Peaches, and I had to turn to sex toys to fill the gap. As a result, I can understand his hesitation; it was painful for me to try the Lelo Ida with anything else inserted, I could only imagine trying to shove his shaft in, as well as the Ida’s twirling form. It wasn’t an option.
That being said, I didn’t completely dislike the Lelo Ida. It was, to me, a complete and utter failure at its primary purpose—as even additional fingers slotted in with its prong solicited pain and the ‘needing to pee’ sensation in the wrong way—but as a solo toy I’ve found myself writing many reviews with the Lelo Ida inserted. During this time happily and semi-powerfully hums away on my vulva, its prong doing a ballet concert inside of me and my muscles clenching as if to clap encouragingly. It was pleasant, but not £145.00 pleasant. Serviceable, but not the Lelo Lily 2, the Lelo Siri 2, or (at the pinnacle) the Lelo Smartwand Large.
This is perhaps the saddest thing with the Lelo Ida—it doesn’t manage to perform the roll that it’s designed for to great effect but no Lelo toy can really effectively fill the gap it leaves either. Couples’ toys are just, in my opinion, something that Lelo aren’t great at, at least not in the conventional sense. The Ida isn’t a bad toy, but neither is it particularly exceptional, and nowhere near mind-blowing enough to justify a purchase.
But toys that you can use as a couple? Well, Lelo are basically iconic for their exquisite offerings. My advice is to sample one of the more diverse Lelo products and find which one would work for you and your partner rather than investing in a toy and hoping that its standard couples’ form fits.
Your relationship and your sex life are unique, so it’s only expected that your couples’ toy preference will be too.
People looking for a fun solo toy.
People looking for some in-private remote toy play (it’s too loud for public).
People who like being very full up.
Do Not Recommend to:
People who dislike feeling too full.
People who dislike swirling sensations.
People who dislike bulky couples’ vibrators.
The Lelo Ida was provided to me by Lelo in exchange for an honest review. If you wish to support this site then please do make any Lelo purchases using the affiliate links included *cough*Smartwand Large*cough*