This post is part of my Ceramic Samplings series, which looks at products from Ceramic Pleasure. To see more please check out the link here. I highly recommend Ceramic Pleasure and their products, which are affordable, unique, and made with passion and unwavering dedication. Creativity at its finest.
Some Ceramic Pleasure creations have shot me to the height of elation as of recently, others just strike a nerve. This one certainly did the latter. Following on quite aptly from my most recent review, the Deep Vein is proof positive that not every toy will work with every individual, and this dildo certainly does not work for me. In fact, it actively works against me—fighting my every motion whenever I try to insert it. Its form is simply too straight and its texture too prominent to ever fully reconcile with my body.
The first time I inserted the Deep Vein in to my body I was met with a sensation that I haven’t felt in a long time—the deep, jolting pain of instant rejection as my muscles clenched to immediately expel this dildo from my body. It was like my vagina muscles were a horse recoiling from a venomous snake that might strike out at them at any moment. There was real distress there.
I have no doubt that, for some, the Deep Vein will be perfect. It reflects a true dedication to extremely raised texture which is only furthered in terms of sensation through the unyielding nature of ceramics, the straightness of this toy’s shaft, and its impressive girth. Texture also runs the entire length of this toy’s shaft and when admiring its aesthetics I certainly lament the fact that it so ill-suited to me.
I also wish I could take more in terms of length, as some of the best and most prominent texture on the Deep Vein is situated nearer the base. I look at its clustered and interwoven patterns and I bite my lip with longing. Now I know why Alice Cooper’s song was sung with such tangible desire—as this dildo, while it looks like a dream come true, is poison running through my (deep) veins.
Part of this is due to just how raised the texture contrasts with the shaft. The transition from raised veins to slender shaft is not gentle. Indeed, the veins rise from the shaft of the Deep Vein as if pulsing and throbbing with life—like a physical manifestation of the intensity with which our hearts race during a particularly memorable tryst.
The Deep Vein is a whooping 9.8 inches in length and has a maximum girth of 5.5 inches. Because it is so large I’ve found that it retains and heating or cooling exceptionally well, but this does not change the outcomes for me—I cannot have this toy inside my body. My body physically defies any attempt, greeting me with a sharp pain while my mind screams for me to abort mission immediately.
Apologies, Ceramic Pleasure, but they can’t all be winners.
One of the things that I truly do admire the Deep Vein for is its beautiful glaze. Blues is one of my favourite colours. It’s what I’ll always choose when looking at yoga equipment or personal journals—anything that I associate with mental well-being and personal care. So, of course, I am always thrilled when a sex toy maker shows mastery over this particular colour.
Because no Ceramic Pleasure is identical (and they can be custom ordered) I also take solace in the fact that no one need experience the particular features of the Deep Vein unless they wish to. I’ll admit, I didn’t expect my body to have such an adverse reaction (I thought I’d adore this toy) but it serves as a wonderful reminder that even experienced sex toy users may still have more to learn.
Such an experience also makes me consider how others might react if met with such a strong and unpleasant bodily reaction to a toy.
Having suffered from Vaginismus there was once a time when meeting such pain would have caused me to spiral in to a loop of self-reinforced fear and rejection. This is very understandable. If you use a sex toy and you’re met with pain then it’s very easy to consider that there’s something wrong with you or that your body is responsible for what happened. Perhaps you might consider that because this sex toy hurt you then all sex toys will and you therefore avoid adult products or attribute them to pain.
But a single experience with a single toy is just that—one experience. And, if seen in with a little distance, it can actually be a rather productive one. If you have ever found yourself met with pain when using a toy then, rather than considering yourself to be fundamentally flawed, take a breath, allow the pain to come and pass and then think to yourself “Well, okay. This particular toy clearly does not suit my body. What about the product might have caused this?”
Know that, when confronted with such sensations, you are not flawed, or at fault—you have, in fact, found yourself presented with a fantastic opportunity to learn more about your body and what does and doesn’t work with it. By shifting the blame away from yourself and considering the pain in terms of preference you will be able to more effectively select a pleasurable product in future, in addition to avoiding similar toys as well.
The world is full of amazing adult products and the Deep Vein Is undoubtedly one of them. It’s just not for me. Maybe it’ll be for you and maybe not. But with so many dildos to choose from I’m sure that Ceramic Pleasure (and the greater adult market) will have something to cater to your personal needs.