When you’re suffering from a condition such as Vaginismus a good pair of dilators can be literally life-changing. I know because I went through dilator treatment as part of my own recovery from the condition and I will always feel indebted to the kit that my partner purchased for me. I owe it so much.
That being said not all dilator kits are created equal. The most common type of dilator kit looks clinical, is made of hard plastic, and tends to come with an interchangeable handle system which makes the whole process seem a bit daunting at first. With such an intimidating session it can be rather difficult to associate such kits with sexual arousal and enjoyment, even if they can be associate with recovery. When I was using my own amazing-but-clinical kit I did wonder on multiple occasions “why can’t these just be a bit…sexier?”
This is where the Inspire Set factors in…
The CalExotics Inspire Silicone Dilator Set (5-Piece)
Created to be both effective and (in time) enjoyable, the Inspire Set has an overall aesthetic which just looks more pleasing, unintimidating, and generally appealing when compared to conventional dilation kits. Whether it’s the pastel pink colouration, the gently tapered curve of the shaft, or the conveniently positioned loop at the end, the Inspire Set exudes a sense of reassurance on the road to recovery.
In terms of specs. the full measurements for each dilator are as follows:
Dilator #1: 3 inch insertable length, 1.5 inch circumference
Dilator #2: 3.75 inch insertable length, 2.5 inch circumference
Dilator #3: 4.75 inch insertable length, 2.9 inch circumference
Dilator #4: 5.5 inch insertable length, 3.5 inch circumference
Dilator #5: 6.5 inch insertable length, 4.25 inch circumference
While the colour of this set may not matter much in terms of application, the tapered shaft and its subtle curve certainly does. Compared to typical dilator kits (which tend to have a straight shaft and reach their full their girth sooner than the Inspire Set) these dilators looks and feel much more natural in terms of their curve.
New users may be worried that the pointed tip might curve up and scrape against their vaginal walls painfully but I personally found that the curve wasn’t quite sharp enough for this to happen. However if these dilators do feel uncomfortable at any point then the looped handle makes repositioning them easy and intuitive, giving the user the increased control needed to feel a bit more at ease.
The asymmetry of these curved dilators also allows more confident users to experiment with different positions and pressure. It’s entirely possible to flip the dilator around and see how it feels when used like that, or to put a bit of pressure on the vaginal wall and see how that feels when used in conjunction with a clitoral vibrator. After all, if the goal to dilators is to help the user enjoy penetration again then they need to have the potential to be enjoyable and the Inspire Set definitely has this capacity.
Having now recovered from Vaginismus I was able to use these as sex toys (in addition to considering them as dilators) and, I have to say, they’re pretty good. Enough G-Spot pressure can be applied so that they help facilitate a respectably fulfilling orgasm. Impressively, though, these orgasms never really felt too forceful or overwhelming for me, which I think is another important factor for people on the road to recovery. The ability to use the Inspire Set for pleasure does mean that they’re also great for newcomers to sex toys, as Lovehoney mention.
I would also be remiss if I didn’t mention the material that these dilators are made out of. As opposed to most dilators (which are made of hard plastic) the Inspire Set is made out of silicone and I personally thing that’s amazing. Why? Well aside from the fact that silicone is non-porous, phthalate-free, hypoallergenic and completely body-safe it also feels softer, smoother, and generally more receptive than hard plastic. It’s not that these toys aren’t firm (they are) but silicone just feels a bit more forgiving and a bit less rigid than the unyielding surface of hard plastic. The surface of these dilators also has the powdery silken smoothness of a luxury silicone toy which just makes me melt. And, as an added bonus, silicone warms to your body temperature making it feel more in tune with your body.
All of this comes together to make a fantastic set of dilators that I would wholeheartedly recommend.
However, that being said, there is one downside to these dilators which does need considering before you make a purchase in my opinion. While these dilators do all match the given girth near the base of the shaft their tapered form means that users who don’t insert the full length will not always conquer the full girth. For example on the largest dilator the lower section is indeed 4.25 inches in circumference but the mid-section (which is where I would comfortably stop even now) is only 4 inches. This may seem minuscule but when you have Vaginismus that .25 inches can mean quite a lot. We’re already conquering girth so I don’t really know how I feel about the dilators needing you to conquer length too if you want the full benefits.
This becomes really apparent when comparing the Inspire Set to the more conventional dilators that I used. In terms of aesthetic and sexual pleasure my old dilators really didn’t offer anything but in terms of sensible size increments I always got the full stretch without having to try and insert them right the way to the bottom of the shaft. If that girth is a high priority for you then (which, for a lot of Vaginismus sufferers, it is) then this set might not give you the fullest fullness that you’re looking for. Of course there are ways that you can work around this—by buying some dildos, for example—but I’ve always felt like a dilation set should be able to see things to the end and for some users the Inspire Set just may not be girthy enough for that (especially if their partner is larger).
Again, this may not bother everyone, so it’s worth considering how you feel about it. It’s a very personal choice after all. Some users may plan on getting sex toys after using their dilators anyway, in which case this girth difference may not be damming.
Overall, though, I’m incredibly impressed with these dilators. I get the impression that if they were out when I was struggling with the condition myself then I would have purchased them in a heartbeat and I doubt I would have had any regrets. Heck! I may have even found my G-Spot sooner.
As a final bonus for each set of these dilators purchased a percentage of the sale goes to the ‘Living Beyond Breast Cancer’ charity, so you know that you’re helping others while the dilators help you.
People who want silicone dilators.
People who want slightly curved dilators.
People who want an equal focus on pleasure and recovery.
Do Not Recommend to:
People who prefer hard plastic dilators.
People who need larger dilators (4.25 is a slim stopping point).
People who dislike curved or tapered dilators.
These dilators were kindly provided to me by Lovehoney in exchange for an honest review. If you want to support my site then please do make your purchase via the affiliate links in this post.