Back when I was still suffering quite heavily from vaginismus, alleviating my struggles with bullet vibes and a good lube, it was an earlier version of the We-Vibe couple’s vibrator which first got me really enthusiastic about high-end sex toys.
“This looks wonderful!”, I exclaimed enthusiastically to Mr. Peaches, “It’s a vibrator that we can both use”.
“Hmmm, I don’t know”, he said with reasonable caution, “Do you think that you could fit both me and the toy inside yourself?”. I sadly relented and agreed with his logical advice. At the time, as much as we both enthused over the We-Vibe we had our reservations as to whether we could even use it, let alone enjoy it. But these are different times.
At this point in my life it’s fair to say that my vaginismus is far behind me, as I continue to explore more exciting and daring sexcapades.
Meanwhile the We-Vibe couples vibrator has also made leaps and bounds. Taking in user’s feedback and using their knowledge when it comes to sexual pleasure, We-Vibe has honed their couples toy considerably into a newer model called the We-Vibe 4. With a sleeker design that is 30% smaller than the We-Vibe 3, the We-Vibe 4 has been creating an understandable buzz among the sex toy community.
Keeping all that in mind, it’s needless to say that I was jumping for joy when We-Vibe gave me a chance to review the We-Vibe 4 in exchange for an honest review. Given my cravings of its previous incarnations and its compact design We-Vibe 4 seemed to be the perfect version for my partner and I.
But did the We-Vibe 4 live up to expectations, or were our old reservations justified?
The We-Vibe 4 has a very simple premise, which is, nonetheless, incredibly clever in terms of conception—it’s a vibrator that can be inserted and enjoyed by both users during penetration. (That is its primary purpose, but the toy can be used in other ways, including with a toy and for solo masturbation). In order to achieve its primary goal the We-Vibe 4 is a two-pronged system—designed to have one prong inserted for G-spot stimulation while the other hugs the vulva and stimulates the clitoris.
With a set-up like that it’s easy to imagine that the We-Vibe 4 might look cumbersome and unwieldy (and previous versions of the We-Vibe couples vibes have certainly given me that impression). However, the We-Vibe 4 is streamlined enough and small enough that it never quite feels intimidating or impractical. With smooth curves and a slim internal prong then We-Vibe 4 instead comes across as the perfect union between form and fit (to lend from the product page).
The We-Vibe 4 is firm enough that it feels like it will achieve a secure fit during use, but it also flexible enough that it doesn’t feel like it will clamp down uncomfortably.
The initial comfort of the We-Vibe 4 is only emphasised its silicone exterior too. The silicone used on the We-Vibe 4 is incredibly lustrous; silken smooth and velvet to the touch. This silicone has a matte feel but doesn’t grab lint easily, making it hassle-free in many ways. The silicone is, of course, also medically-grade, phthalate-free, and completely body-safe, which is what you’d expect from a toy of this calibre.
When it comes to charging the We-Vibe 4 is a breeze. The We-Vibe 4 can be charged via USB and its charge case doubles as a storage case for the toy and its controller. 6 hours charge will get you roughly 3 hours of play, which is respectable enough.
The We-Vibe 4 has 6 different vibration modes—Low, Medium, High, Pulse, Wave, and Echo. Echo allows the vibrations to fluctuate between the two prongs, while all the others are pretty self-explanatory. The vibrations are decently powerful and have a nice amount of rumble to them, but they don’t have as much depth as the Tango or Touch. Despite this they still feel quite impressive.
The power of the We-Vibe 4 most likely won’t deliver the full-throttle power that power queens might appreciate but I personally find the power provided to be very reasonable for the job at hand, and tend to use the We-Vibe 4 on Medium most of the time.
The We-Vibe 4’s controller can wirelessly filter through the different modes which can also be used to turn the toy on and off. However if you lose it or simply don’t wish to use a remote then the We-Vibe 4 also has a button on the clitoral prong of the toy which also controls the modes. The controller is designed in a way which makes them easy to figure out in terms of which button does what, although it can be a bit temperamental during use.
Speaking of use, our first time was less-than-successful, but not a total disaster.
Although I now tackle toys of considerable size, old fears die hard and I did have some worries that the We-Vibe 4 would, in fact, be too big for me. The typical “how can both him and the vibe fit in comfortably?” fear that is all too often associated with the We-Vibe couples range reared its ugly head and I used an excessive amount of lube.
I’ve often been known to say “you can never have too much lube” but, in this case, I was wrong. When lubed to excess the We-Vibe 4 is difficult to control and slips and slides all over the place. This was, of course, completely my fault, and lead to some complications. However, despite all the fumbling caused by my pre-toy jitters, when the We-Vibe 4 was in place then it was fantastic. There were no issues in regards to fitting my partner in, and instead of filling overfull the internal prong instead comfortably and very pleasurably applied reasonable pressure to my G-spot intermittently and my partner thrusted in and out of my vagina. This effect became even better through multiple uses.
After having ironed out the first lube-tacular escapade, my partner and I came to really enjoy the We-Vibe 4.
Like I said, the internal prong provides wonderful, intermittent bouts of pressure on the G-spot—which can be incredibly intense and is only heightened when the thrusting is increased. The slight bit of texture provided on both arms also doesn’t go amiss either, and can be felt strongly enough to influence the sensations significantly. Combine the thrust-fuelled G-spot stimulation with the texture and the decent vibrations of this vibrator and the We-Vibe 4 can certainly show users a good time.
On the other side of things my partner said that he also enjoyed the We-Vibe 4. For him the pleasure came from the combination of the vibrations and the tightness that the We-Vibe 4 provides. With a prong in my vagina it only stands to reason that things are going to feel a bit snugger for him, and that (it seems) can really add something to the play session.
All-in-all I really enjoy the We-Vibe 4. I feel like I’m just scratching the surface of the sensations that it can make me feel (as they vary depending on the position used and the motions of those involved). However, the We-Vibe 4 is far from perfect, and there are some things to consider when thinking of whether or not this is the toy for you.
While less lube makes the We-Vibe 4 less liable to slip out, we still couldn’t get it to stay in place for some positions. Our most successful position by far was doggy style—which allowed for some fantastic sensations without causing the We-Vibe 4 to budge once from its position, even during vigorous thrusting—however we never could get it to work for us in other positions.
Mr. Peaches also found that, while sex was incredibly enjoyable when using the We-Vibe 4, his penis was left rather tender afterwards, as if it has been exposed to too much friction. Varying degrees of lube have not remedied this so it could be that some people are just a bit more sensitive when using the We-Vibe 4 than others. Likewise the texture on the We-Vibe 4 will not suit everyone and could be a deterrent for those who greatly dislike texture on their toys.
We also found the remote for the We-Vibe 4 to be a bit temperamental. Even though it is supposed to control the We-Vibe 4 from up to 10 foot away there were times when it would barely control it when mere centimetres away. Making sure the remote is synchronized is the easiest way to remedy this issue, and there are easy instructions on how to do this in the manual. Doing this whenever an issue arises provides and easy fix usually.
The other bit issue with the We-Vibe 4 is that it is quite loud; even when inserted a rather distinct and prominent buzzing can be heard. As such people who value silence in their toys might need to think twice before purchasing the We-Vibe 4 and those who had ideas about using it out and about might want to reconsider if they’re going to be in quiet places and spaces.
There weren’t any issues with cleaning the We-Vibe 4 thanks to its waterproof design.
It’s fair to say experimentation is needed when using the We-Vibe 4, but that’s all part of the fun.
While the We-Vibe 4 won’t work in every position that just means that you get to play around and find out what works. While you made need to vary up the lube this just means that you work together to reach a level that’s comfortable for both users, and while the remote can cause some frustrations it can also cause a few chuckles too.
Overall the We-Vibe 4 seems, to me at least, to represent one of the foundational cornerstones of great sex—communication.The We-Vibe 4 allows partners to explore each other’s body and share in a new form of sexual pleasure that comes to fruition out of a wholly joint effort. And it does come to fruition.
Even though some tinkering might be involved, the We-Vibe 4 has enough strength and is compact enough for to provide an enjoyable sexual experience for both partners without getting in the way. It enhances the experience for everyone involved and any reservations about its size are soon forgotten when the sensations take over.
Because of this I personally think the We-Vibe 4 is a great couples toy, and one that will keep on giving the more that partners play around with what it has to offer.
People who want a toy to explore closely together.
People who like dual stimulation.
People who like texture.
Do Not Recommend to:
People who want a ‘straightforward’ toy.
People who prefer to dual-wield toys.
People who dislike texture.
I’d like to thank We-Vibe for providing me with the We-Vibe 4 in exchange for an honest review. We-Vibe will soon be releasing their new We-Vibe 4 Plus, so we also have that to look forward to soon too.